Okay that is enough with the running argument. I think we all know we don't want to go on this site to find something and then have to read through all these hits back and forth.
As a new person on this type of site it can be intiminating to put on a message. I remember in a few of my grad school classes where a professor told me don't worry about asking a question you think is dumb because it probably is one 10 other people in class are scared to ask. But you still don't want to put it out there at times.
Hopefully besides being a good research tool we can make this site fun to be on. I have gotten some messages from people on this site that I wish I was in the same country with let alone the same city because they are so honest and open on not only the genealogy issue but their own personalities. Refreshing in this day where we are so polarized not just in my country but around the world. I think that is why I have mentioned I wish I could find a site like this for French and German genealogy because I learn things not only about my Italian heritage and ancestry here but about people from Australia to the US.
Sometimes it is good to be pretty blunt with people in a research effort to ensure they aren't spinning their wheels in the wrong direction for too long, but we all do have to realize that even though this is an impersonal site where we don't see each other, hear each other's voices, or know each other's backgrounds - some people will take offense to certain words based on some very personal things that have happened in their lives. I know that might be saying we can't worry about people's thin skins but this is a learning site first in a lot of ways so maybe we do need to be a little more careful on all sides.