L'uscita dalla messa

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L'uscita dalla messa

Postby TerraLavoro » 05 Nov 2014, 19:48

On a recent visit with an elderly aunt, she showed me a dress that she has preserved that my GGM wore for the purpose of appearing at church with her husband for the first time as a married couple. This happened in one of our ancestral towns in "basso Lazio".

Can anyone else elaborate on this tradition of appearing in certain clothing "per l'uscita dalla messa"?

I mean was/is this a very local tradition, or more commonplace? Thanks.
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Re: L'uscita dalla messa

Postby Tessa78 » 05 Nov 2014, 22:11

According to tradition, throughout the entire first year of marriage the groom was not supposed to pay for any clothing for his wife. As a result, the bride's family would provide her with clothing, linens and accessories, as part of her dowry.

Perhaps the "special" dress was a sign of her family's status (and her's) when she attended mass as a married woman.

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Re: L'uscita dalla messa

Postby erudita74 » 08 Nov 2014, 13:49

I don't know if this tradition was limited to your ancestral town or region, but during the week following the wedding, there was a tradition whereby the bride did not leave the house. She didn't do any housework either but was devoted only to her new husband. The week was somewhat like a honeymoon but, during this week, neighbors and friends would also stop by the house to hinder the couple from making love. Then, on the Sunday following the wedding, the bride was finally permitted to leave the house to go to church arm in arm with her new husband. So, I believe the dress your aunt wore ties in with this tradition.

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Re: L'uscita dalla messa

Postby TerraLavoro » 11 Nov 2014, 17:44

Very interesting Tessa and Erudita, thank you both for that information.

The dress belonged to one of my GGMs and has been preserved all this time by my Aunt. We are thinking of donating it to a museum of immigration or Italian-American history. Since she arrived in Boston (avoiding Ellis Island intentionally), wondering what would be a good place? Would love to hear any suggestions.
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Re: L'uscita dalla messa

Postby erudita74 » 11 Nov 2014, 21:01

Yes, some interesting info. Happy to help.
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Re: L'uscita dalla messa

Postby Dalinda » 29 Jan 2015, 01:32

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